’’This generation has the largest number of disobedient teenagers in history and this is the result of parental failure. Many parents understand the techniques of sleeping with women. ‘’However, they lack the knowledge and responsibility of bringing up their children’’ — DK OLUKOYA
Let me commence by asserting that this piece is not about religion in its entirety. It concerns an issue that bothers all patriotic and well-meaning people who think about the today and tomorrow of our young ones and Nigeria. It would certainly profit anyone who decides to go through. We don’t claim to possess monopoly of wisdom. But to the glory of God, we at least have solid ideas that we are sharing for the purpose of developing not only Nigeria, but also humanity. It was Henry Ford, who still lives in the minds of humanity today, that stated that: ‘’Enthusiasm is the yeast that makes your hopes shine to the stars. ‘’Enthusiasm is the sparkle in your eyes, the swing in your gait. ‘’The grip of your hand, the irresistible surge of will and energy to execute your ideas’’ – Henry Ford.
On this platform, TERRIFIC HEADLINES aims at encouraging our valuable readers and raising their spirit of enthusiasm. We quotes former World Bank President, Jim Young King: ‘’No matter how good you think you are as a leader, my goodness, the people around you will have all kinds of ideas for how you can get better. ‘’So for me, the most fundamental thing about leadership is to have the humility to continue to get feedback and to try to get better – because your job is to try to help everybody else get better’’ — Jim Yong Kim,served was the 12th President of the World Bank. In other words, good ideas do not know gender. They don’t have borders; good ideas don’t know political parties or the religion of the purveyor. Ideas drop on minds by inspiration during the usually complex human thought process. The essence is to advance the cause of an organization or defined society. Please enjoy this treatise presented for the common good.
THE IMPORTANCE OF PAYING PROPER ATTENTION TO TRAINING THE CHILD – DK OLUKOYA: In a message from the pulpit that is the basis for this compilation, Dr. D.K Olukoya, General Overseer of the Mountain of Fire & Miracles Ministries attributed the rot in the society to the inability of parents to train their children and wards well; while also introducing the spiritual dimension of inadequate evangelization that would have opened the minds of children at impressionable ages to the commandments of God. Indeed, children in turmoil and confusion are the consequences of such thoughts, He alluded to the commandment of God in Proverbs 22:6 which directs that: 6 Train up a child in the way he should go, [a]And when he is old he will not depart from it. Olukoya accused parents of constituting the greatest headache to the society as a result of the shirking their responsibilities.
BENEFITS OF TRAINING THE CHILD: The Scriptures assert, in Deuteronomy 6:6-9 that: These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts.7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8 Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 9 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates’’ Furthermore, Genesis 18:18-19 speaks about the gains accruable to parents who conduct themselves according to the dictates of the Creator: ‘’18 Abraham will surely become a great and powerful nation, and all nations on earth will be blessed through him. 19 For I have chosen him, so that he will direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing what is right and just, so that the Lord will bring about for Abraham what he has promised him.”
YOUR CHILDREN IMBIBE YOUR CONDUCTS: Dr. Olukoya likened children to very important resources that are described in Psalm 127 as: ‘’Arrows in the hands of a warrior are the children of one’s youth’ This translates into the fact that children born to their parents, eventually grow up and become qualified to serve their parents in old age for added pleasure. It is to be noted that when parents play their parts well in family units, they produce dutiful and obedient offspring who would maintain the cause of their parents, and provide for them in their advanced ages. Olukoya enjoined parents to realize that children are burdens on their hands and spouses, therefore, remain committed and dedicated to assisting their children to become successful and useful citizens. A hypocritical parent would surely impact his/her child negatively. At impressionable ages, children mimic their parents; hence the need for spouses to imbibe the culture of speaking the truth at all times, take proper care of their children, set god examples and allow virtues of unity, love, praying and leading them aright be watchwords in homes.
OBEDIENCE: Obedience is a very important ingredient of success in life. Olukoya quoted from Ephesians 6 that admonished children to submit to the parents: counsels that obedience is a Ephesians 6: Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. 2 Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; 3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. 4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. It has been argue that: ‘’The downfall of the family unit in society is one of the most tragic things facing mankind. ‘’The destruction of the family unit all begins with the destruction of what starts a family – the marriage of a man and a woman.’’ Why? This is evidently because the institution of marriage and family is generally not held in the esteem that God meant for it to be!’’ — Jonathan L. Perz (2008)
SELFISHNESS AS THE BIGGEST DESTROYED OF MARRIAGES – COUPLES AS THE MOST CRITICAL FACTOR: Couples are the most important factor in the drive to arrest all condemnable practices. A United States based preacher and writer, Jonathan L. Perz cited above attributes the erosion of values to: selfishness, which he says is ‘’the biggest destroyer of marriages. ‘’In turn, the family unit has for the most part come to mean nothing. Children in turmoil and confusion are the consequences of such thinking. ‘’They get wrapped up in a vicious cycle of broken homes that only they can choose to break. That is, the average child of a divorced couple will inevitably divorce unless they consciously and determinably, choose not to fall prey to the same thing their parents did.’’ This is shameful! God desired these things for the family. ‘’Because the LORD has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously; yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant. But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth.’’
RAISING A CHILD -EVERYBODY COUNTS: The 42nd President of the United States, President William Jefferson Clinton, in his treatise at the first Nelson Mandela Foundation Lecture in 2003 submitted that: “It takes a village to raise a child. ‘’ If we live in a global village we are all responsible for every child. If we truly understand the nature of the modern world then America and Europe and Australia and Asia and Africa are in the same village. And therefore, we are all part of our common endeavour to raise every child in the world. We have to be bound by simple strong values across every religious tradition. ‘’Everybody counts, everybody deserves a chance, everybody has a responsible role to play, we all do better when we work together. ‘’Everybody counts, everybody deserves a chance, everybody has a responsible role to play, we all do better when we work together.’’ Nobody could successfully fault the need for mentoring and reshaping the society through copying good examples provided by ROLE MODELS that are accommodated by all strata of our society.
WORDS OF WISDOM: We will end this piece with memorable quotes as part of our campaign for peace, peaceful conducts and dialogue. There must be a meeting point for all to reason together.
MEMORABLE QUOTES: ‘’The world will not respect Africa until Nigeria earns that respect. The black people of the world need Nigeria to be great as a source of pride and confidence. Nigerians love freedom and hate oppression. ‘’Why do you do it to yourselves? …. ‘’What do young Nigerians think about your leaders and their country and Africa? Do you teach them history? Do you have lessons on how your past leaders stood by us and gave us large amounts of money? You know I hear from Angolans and Mozambicans and Zimbabweans how your people opened their hearts and their homes to them. ‘’I was in prison then, but we know how your leaders punished western companies who supported Apartheid’’. – NELSON MANDELA
Violence never settles anything right: apart from injuring your own soul, it injures the best cause. It lingers on long after the object of hate has disappeared from the scene to plague the lives of those who have employed it against their foes. – Obafemi Awolowo.
“Violence has never been an instrument used by us, as founding fathers of the Nigerian Republic, to solve political problems. In the British tradition, we talked the Colonial Office into accepting our challenges for the demerits and merits of our case for self-government. After six constitutional conferences in 1953, 1954, 1957, 1958, 1959, and 1960, Great Britain conceded to us the right to assert our political independence as from October 1, 1960. None of the Nigerian political parties ever adopted violent means to gain our political freedom; and we are happy to claim that not a drop of British or Nigerian blood was shed in the course of our national struggle for our place in the sun. ‘’This historical fact enabled me to state publicly in Nigeria that Her Majesty’s Government has presented self-government to us on a platter of gold. ‘’Of course, my contemporaries scorned at me, but the facts of history are irrefutable. ‘’I consider it most unfortunate that our ‘Young Turks’ decided to introduce the element of violent revolution into Nigerian politics. No matter how they and our general public might have been provoked by obstinate and perhaps grasping politicians, it is an unwise policy.’’ — Nnamdi Azikiwe; in his reaction to the first military coup in Nigeria, published on 16th January, 1966.
‘’We must continue to expect disagreements among people, as wrangling or contention has a human trait, which will be exhibited under all, and any circumstances. “Even if all our problems were solved by God in one go, with all mankind having enough to eat and to wear; decent houses to live in, sound education, good health, happy homes, big cars, political freedom, godly and truly public-spirited rulers to administer our affairs etc., we will still argue among ourselves, at least, as to why God should bestow His bounty so generously on everyone!” — Obafemi Awolowo; in one of his publications: ‘My March Through Prison’ published by Macmillan Nigeria Publishers.
‘’I am convinced, and I want you also to be convinced, that the future of this vast country must depend, in the main, on the efforts of ourselves to help ourselves. This we cannot do if we do not work together in unity. Indeed, unity today is our greatest concern, and it is the duty of every one of us to work, so that we may strengthen it. This morning, I said in the House of Representatives that bitterness due to political differences would carry Nigeria nowhere, and I appealed to the political leaders throughout the country to control their party extremists. To you who are listening tonight, I repeat that appeal — Let us put away bitterness and go forward in friendship to Independence‘’— Abubakar Tafawa Balewa; In his in his first speech as the Prime Minister of Nigeria, 1957.
“In the final analysis, the Nigerian tragedy has been bedeviled by a set of oppositions: generalized, stereotype, not necessarily of the same order and may be imaginary, yet each widening the wound and reducing the hope of healing it: north vs south, Islam vs Christianity, alleged feudalism vs assumed socialism, Federal vs unitary preferences, traditional authority vs achieved elitism, haves vs have-nots; each with sinister undertones of tension, irreconcilability and threatened withdrawal. “Each opposing set of these forces, had sufficient seed of truth within it to permit, and even fertilize the growth of feared fact from the semi-fiction of its existence. ‘’The search for the roots of the disaster of 1966, through the first military incursion into Nigerian politics, and subsequent destabilization of the political scene could be directed at the aforementioned factors; each sufficient to erupt into a political volcano.’’ – British Historian, AHM Kirk-Greene in his book: ‘Crisis and Conflict in Nigeria’.
May the Good Lord bless Nigeria!