‘’If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?’’ — Psalm 11:3
Some marriages are figuratively said to be made in heaven, because of the seemingly perfect nature of relationships by united couples who play the rules according to the game. It is an established fact that disorderly homes, are next to hell in terms of the agonies experienced by some family units made up of father, mother, son and daughter. Therefore, people pray for the divine Hand of God in choosing their spouses. It is even Biblical and contained in the Holy Koran. Proverbs 18:22 states that ‘’He who finds a wife finds a good thing, ‘’And obtains favour from the Lord.’’ The Holy Book goes ahead, in Ephesians 5:25 to state categorically that: “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.” Genesis 2:24: “Therefore, a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
On the other hand, a husband means ‘’to conserve resources and use them frugally’’ The qualities of a good husband and invariably father, and head of the family, according to the ‘Open Bible’ include: ‘’Reliability, as marriage is for life; raising the children as a moral compass, considerate; willing to sacrifice, apology for wrong doings, faithful, and being supportive. Lucky are members of the female gender who enjoy the trust, confidence, and love of the male spouse and father and husband, who, in the Nigerian culture, is regarded as the prime motivator, provider, and head of the family. Perfect unions and relationships form the foundation upon which the society is constructed. That is why the Scriptures say in Psalm 11:3 that: ‘’If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?’’
ROLE MODELS & SHINING EXAMPLES
Although the Lord cautions against envy and covetousness, this divine principle might not apply to envying for good good conducts. Has anyone ever observed the outings of people like Retd Lt. Gen Theophilus Yakubu & Daisy Danjuma; Otunba Subomi & Olori Abimbola Balogun; Aare Afe & Chief (Mrs) Modupe Babalola and Pastor Enoch & Pastor (Mrs) Folu Adeboye, such that Baba Adeboye has stated that God forbid, if the Lord decides to take Pastor (Mrs) Folu Adeboye home before him, he would not last three months before joining his wife in Heaven? There are others that enjoy equally chummy relationships like: The Otunba, Adekunle & Erelu Ojuolape Ojora; Akinrogun Segun and Beere Derinsola Osoba, John & (Mrs) Sola Momoh (Chairman & Vice Chairman of Channels Television) and Mr. Victor Gbolade & (Mrs) Funke Osibodu (Manage same business together)
It is also amazing to assess the level of submissiveness of business tycoon, Mrs Folorunsho Alakija, who regards her husband, Mr. Modupe Alakija as the captain of the family business, while she takes the back seat as Executive Vice-Chairman of FAMFA Oils. The same applies to Adesuyi & Vicky Haastrup, and Gbolade & Funke Osibodu. That is perfect submission as ordered by God Almighty. Dr. Peter & Justice Mary Odili and Donald & Owanari Duke are always a wonderful sight to behold. Then, let’s talk about fathers. Aliko Dangote, Femi Otedola, and Olagunsoye Oyinlola are examples of exemplary fathers who have invested heavily in their all-female children. In the legal circles, you cannot miss Adegboyega and Victoria Awomolo, both Senior Advocates on Nigeria, managing the same chambers; as well as Wole & Molara Olanipekun SAN, whose children are ‘’roaring’’ in the legal profession. Bolu and Ladunni Akin-Olugbade do their things in common.
RECOGNIZING WOMEN AS PIVOTS OF FAMILY UNITS
A woman combines a unique position as a wife, a mother, sister, lover, in-law, and grandmother. These roles place her at a unique and advantageous position to a major stakeholder in whatever happens in a family unit, a society, a nation, and indeed the whole world. In spite of these important roles, history has not been too kind to women in terms of recording positive events that tally with the level of contributions of women to development generally. A hard look at supportive spouses in political and corporate governance brings out personalities who have disallowed tribulations in different forms, to extinguish the fire of their love for one another.
Equally affected are institutions charged with mentoring and parental responsibilities, that serve to inculcate in our youths the right values, ethics, and morals in every facet of the society. For the sake of our tomorrow, older people, who are supposed to be the moral compass must not get ‘’lost’’ in a haze of misdemeanors. The impact on youths has implications of changes in behaviour, morals and aspirations. Some unwholesome acts in the society influenced by over-exposure to foreign cultures are so pervasive; and their effects are hugely corrosive and anti-development.
And the right segment of the society that should make this noble objective happen consists of spouses, whose activities are copied by their children and wards. More importantly, the evolving era of joint partnerships in the management of homes and businesses by spouses is worthy of being celebrated. Couples, who by dint of hard work, and mutual encouragement have reached the pinnacles of their careers, jointly building their homes and businesses; as well and men who have exceptionally supported their wives and female children to excel deserve special focus.
WOMEN ARE BETTER PLACED TO LEAD THE CAMPAIGN FOR MORAL RECTITUDE
It is believed that women, as pivots of family units are better placed to lead the campaign against social vices and security breaches; and how to arrest the trend. The event would further encourage men and women alike, with responsibility for the training of children and wards and managing the home, to stand committed to the objective of joint responsibility for successes of couples in life. The key points are as follows: COUPLES & FAMILIES OF VIRTUES takes cognizance of, and addresses the global dimension of the need for an urgent intervention in family values and virtues, in view of the fact that when a bad practice is continued over a period of time, it becomes the norm; hence the need for proactive measures to shape the conducts of the young ones in their formative years through adolescence.