WHY COUPLES MUST DEVOTE ENOUGH TIME FOR THE FAMILY & YOUTH – WHO ARE YOUR MENTORS?
Family is the natural and fundamental group unit of society, and is entitled to protection by society and the state (United Nations in Universal Declaration of Human Rights, art. 16.3)
•’I think our job as parents is to give our kids roots to grow and wings to fly.’’ — Deborah Norville
•‘’The family is the test of freedom; because the family is the only thing that the free man makes for himself and by himself.’’ — Gilbert K. Chesterton
•‘’Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring, and integrity, they think of you’’ — H. Jackson Brown Jr.
•’If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?’’ Psalm 11:3.
•‘’When a bad practice is continued over a period of time, it becomes the norm; hence the need for proactive measures to shape the conduct of the young ones in their formative years through adolescence, through family values. – Primate Peter Jasper Akinola
•“It takes a village to raise a child. ‘’ If we live in a global village, we are all responsible for every child. If we truly understand the nature of the modern world, then America and Europe and Australia and Asia and Africa are in the same village. And therefore, we are all part of our common endeavour to raise every child in the world. We have to be bound by simple strong values across every religious tradition’’ – Bill Clinton
•Nigeria’s progress and national development will be constrained if women and girls continue to be disadvantaged and gender equity is ignored. Non-discrimination is enshrined in the Nigerian Constitution but in practice, the majority of Nigerian girls and women are unable to claim their constitutional entitlement. If Nigeria is to maximize its “demographic dividend” as the population of working age increases and fertility declines, it must prioritize investment in women and girls to ensure that the next generation of all young adults are healthier, better educated and more able to contribute to economic growth and development’’ – Gender in Nigeria Report 2012 sponsored by DFID
•‘’It is better for damages not to occur at all than to go into crisis management. The reactive approach is more costly in terms of damages done, more expensive in terms of finances injected, and takes a long while for the crises to be combated successfully. – Terrific Headlines
•In order to make the world a more human place, it is necessary to “start again from the woman,” because the salvation of humanity “came forth from the body of a woman. The rebirth of humanity began from a woman. “Women are sources of life. ‘’That is why “every form of violence inflicted upon a woman is a blasphemy against God, who was born of a woman”, said Pope Francis. “How often are women’s bodies sacrificed on the profane altars of advertising, profiteering, and pornography, exploited like a canvas to be used”. “Women’s bodies must be freed from consumerism”, he said. “They must be respected and honoured”. – POPE FRANCIS
•The existing situation requires a redoubling of efforts of governments as well as in the private sector to ensure the protection of families, especially those with children. It reinforces the case for universal social protection, ensuring food and nutrition security, and access to basic social services and shelter. It is important to define and strengthen national institutional mechanisms that specifically address family issues. – United Nations (2009)
•‘’One of the challenges I had when I was growing up in the early working days, that is, balancing the needs of my family and work. God, in His own wonderful and mysterious way, helped me very early in life to realize that my family needed me. As a young man, one day I came back from work, went to have a bath, changed my clothes, picked up the car key and was about to go to the Island Club that day to meet some friends. As I was passing through the sitting room, I tried to carry the baby, but he won’t allow me carry him. I tried the first time, the second time and the third time, but he won’t allow me touch him. I said, ‘what’s wrong with you?’And one of the children answered, saying: ‘’Daddy, if you spend more time at home, he will know you and will allow you to carry him. ‘’The key fell from my hand and I just sank into the nearest chair. I was then in my mid-30s, fortunately. I couldn’t go out again that day. That taught me that I needed to spend time with them, that they needed me at home. I was leaving everything to my wife then, but I now found that my presence was needed. I know, having gone through it myself, that you can combine both. – Felix Ohiwerei
•CHILDREN – WHO ARE YOUR MENTORS? Young citizens, who are your mentors and who do you look up to? Do you know that everybody passing through this world has at least one helper of destiny place along your earthly route that should lead you into your destiny? Are you contented or you wish to move on in life? If so, then abandon those bad gangs and associations you belong to. Why are you in that club that makes your actions very criminal in nature? And parents, let it not be socials every weekend, and the latest clothes and trinkets, such that you don’t spare enough time to attend to your children. We are in a jet age when children at impressionable ages could be misled by peer groups. Do you even know your children’s friends and teachers? – TERRIFIC HEADLINES
•HOW TO DESTROY A CHILD’S FUTURE: ‘’Any nation that neglects its children is destroying its future. That is a fact of life. What many of us are doing is unconsciously breeding a generation that is left in the hands of houseboys and house girls most of the time, in the hands of teachers part of the time and in the hands of their parents very little of the time. Who is best placed to bring up a child, if not the parents? So, we have to go back to basics. Parents must have time for their family and bring up the children the way they should go. But do parents, these days actually know which way they should go or the right things? If they are taught the way they should go, the way and fear of the Lord, right from childhood, then we will produce a good society and good leaders, who would work according to the principle of God. You either leave your children in the hands of nannies and cooks and they develop nanny and cook mentality, or you spend time with them and bring them up the way they should go. The problem with man is that man tries to do things his own way; man likes to strive, to put in efforts. But God has always given man a simple and better way. He says we should first seek his kingdom and righteousness and every other thing will be added unto us. – FELIX OHIWEREI
•OPPORTUNITY FOR GREATNESS: You can be greater than Obafemi Awolowo, Nnamdi Azikiwe and Tafawa Balewa. But you must work towards that because nothing comes easy. If you read this and you don’t know who these great Nigerians were, you have an opportunity to know now that daddy and mummy have been locked down with you at home. Go to them to ask questions. Plan the positive way. Why don’t you copy examples of successful people who toiled day and night to be successful instead of looking for cheap money or yahoo-yahoo? If your design is to make money quick, then you might go to jail quick and never finish well and could injure the future of your children when they eventually grow up. You probably will not locate successful people who will take pride in consumption of hard drugs. If it is good, important personalities will do it openly. Remember, you should never fall into the hands of evil people who could manipulate you to do their bidding and this could be disastrous. Get hold of the biographies of these great Nigerians and read how they prepared themselves for leadership roles and their patriotic contributions. May the Good Lord bless Nigeria His beloved nation. – TERRIFIC HEADLINES
WOMEN & MOTHERS AS PIVOTS
Evidently, the whole world is in a defining moment. These issues are not peculiar to Nigeria alone. It is a global malaise. No society can bear the consequences of bringing up children in turmoil and confusion. Traditional family values are important because if the traditional family unit is undermined, then society will simultaneously be undermined with it. Eliseo Nesci argues that ‘’a man and a woman, joined together in the sacred act of procreation and sworn to loyalty between each other under marriage is the basic building block for a stable society. The man takes responsibility for the well being of his wife and sets aside all other women for one. Within this sacrifice, the man learns true love is not based on mere physical attraction, the way he feels, or how much pleasure a woman brings him.’’
EFFECTS OF PARENTAL RELATIONSHIPS
There are two ways – couples could manage a home in unity and have their children and wards understudy them for positive effects. They could also choose, though foolishly to exhibit negative tendencies that rub off on children and become parts and parcels of their lives as they grow up, through assimilating or mimicking conducts of the older ones. Children are at risk of developing negative perceptions of relationship and society in situations where parents break up as a result on irreconcilable differences. The responsibility for managing a home, nurturing children, and constructing a society is that of husband and wife; and these must be jointly executed. Lapses and outright failure of parents to monitor their children as they grow into impressionable ages are the causes of the intolerable level of moral decay that the society is currently witnessing.
EFFECTS OF CONFLICTS & ARGUMENTS: It is trite that genetics play a defining role in how children respond to their upbringing. Much of the factors that form the personality, or character of these children are imbibed during impressionable ages. What happens at home affects the outlook or perceptions of the young ones. It has been held that it is not only the relationship between the parent and child that is important. How parents get on with each other also plays a big role in a child’s well-being, with the potential to affect everything from mental health to academic success and future relationships. But there is the chance for some good to come out of a “positive” row. According to Judith Maxwell, ‘Social cohesion refers to the processes of building shared values and communities of interpretation, reducing disparities in wealth and income, and generally enabling people to have a sense that they are engaged in a common enterprise, facing shared challenges, and that they are members of the same community’
NON-VIOLENCE THROUGH NATURE & NURTURE
In most cases, arguments will have little or no negative effects for children. But when parents shout and are angry with each other, when they consistently withdraw or give each other the “silent treatment”, problems can sometimes arise. A research sponsored by the UK government through observations in the home, long-term follow up work and experimental studies, suggests that from as young as six months, children exposed to conflict may have increased heart rates and stress hormone responses. Infants, children and adolescents can show signs of disrupted early brain development, sleep disturbance, anxiety, depression, conduct disorder and other serious problems as a result of living with severe or chronic inter-parental conflict. As members of a family interact in a peaceful manner, this synergy is reflected to the outer world. Thus, a setting with peaceful families will likely be a peaceful environment. Building on this notion, peaceful communities with peaceful members leads to nonviolent nations who in turn pursue less conflictual relations, leading to a more peaceful world.
The paper cited above indicates that ‘Strong families give children love, identity, a personal history and a secure base from which to explore and enjoy life as they grow up. Strong families also help build strong communities, so they are crucial for a successful society’ It has been established that families are the link between creating peace in individuals, peace in society, and peace between nations. When viewed from this perspective, families become the crucial mechanism and active agent in promoting and disseminating global peace (Cole & Rutter, 1993). Families, Children and Political Violence War, terrorism and violence have deleterious effects on families and children’’ Building a strong society requires effective family policy Samantha Callan Introduction: Families matter Families and their ‘practices’ (what goes on inside them) are highly significant to local, national and supranational governments because, however constituted, they are the micro-ecology in which emotional and material needs are met for the majority of people. Families are essential for social cohesion, the socialisation of children and individual well-being; they are the base from which children and adults can learn, work, and contribute to society.
DISADVANTAGED FEMALE GENDER CONSTRAINS DEVELOPMENT:
Obviously, any matter that ‘’adversely affects the future of children affects the whole community’’. The report cited above also argues that Nigerian women deserve encouragement and more opportunities, the account states that: ‘’Girls are more likely to avoid early marriage, plan their pregnancies, and have better maternal and child health outcomes. Nigeria’s progress and national development will be constrained if women and girls continue to be disadvantaged and gender equity is ignored. Non-discrimination is enshrined in the Nigerian Constitution but in practice, the majority of Nigerian girls and women are unable to claim their constitutional entitlement. If Nigeria is to maximize its “demographic dividend” as the population of working age increases and fertility declines, it must prioritize investment in women and girls to ensure that the next generation of all young adults are healthier, better educated and more able to contribute to economic growth and development’’
STRONG & STABLE FAMILIES: Researchers submit that: defence of intervention in terms of the end goal it is seeking – strong and stable families in which adults and children are able to flourish with far less assistance and interference from governments than current levels of family breakdown allow. Significance of social cohesion and how it is linked to family cohesion Social cohesion is important for national and local governments because its presence or lack strongly influences the ability of a country or community to collaborate to make progress Confucius (www.sjsu.edu) and determines the degree of trust that exists between people. According to Judith Maxwell, ‘Social cohesion refers to the processes of building shared values and communities of interpretation, reducing disparities in wealth and income, and generally enabling people to have a sense that they are engaged in a common enterprise, facing shared challenges, and that they are members of the same community’
This compilation must close with one of the most topical issues in the world today. And it deals with the quote of one of Africa’s most illustrious sons, Kofi Annan, the 7th Secretary-General of the United Nations. Whoever occupies that position is able to view the whole world through the prism of the United Nations, that I personally consider an indispensable organization for the continued existence of the world.
RESPONSIBILITIES OF AFRICA FOR A GLORIOUS FUTURE
The whole world needs peace. In a situation where American president’s tweets lack good motives like promoting national or public good, there is cause for all regions of the world to be worried. World leaders must continue to press for peace in America as any untoward act would not do the world any good. Kofi Annan, speaking at the annual Obafemi Awolowo Lecture in 2015 stated that: ‘’Africa deserves the help of the international community to overcome these challenges, but the continent must also work harder to put its own house in order: ‘’Africa must move beyond divisions on ethnic and tribal lines. “The cloak of government must protect all. Inequalities based on ethnic background are the fault lines on which societies fracture. ‘’There must be equal access to opportunity for all. ‘’Healing these divisions needs good, democratic leadership and strong civil societies. We need a much greater effort both nationally – and with international support – to build up the strength of our institutions and civil society.” Africa must take a greater responsibility for its own problems and solutions: “The African Union is increasingly influential and important. But both the AU and Nigeria can, and must, do more. ‘’Across the continent there is huge potential for increased regional and sub-regional co-operation not least to improve infrastructure, boost trade and create jobs. Africa would be in a stronger position to demand and win the changes needed in international organisations if it showed the courage and will to tackle problems within our own continent.” Those in positions of authority across the world managing regional and multilateral organizations are in a better place to propel world leaders to attempt to solve this ugly impasse. It stinks!
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